While in the office, a friend of mine who's named a peculiar name, Greece. Greece received a call from her aunt. ' Didi, is pregnant! We are going to bring her to the doctor today. She's bleeding!' Greece's face turned fallen ashes, gritted her teeth and muttered inaudible words. Didi is not her biological daughter, she is a niece to her. But Greece treated her like her own.
Didi is a 17 year old high school student, her mother died of breast cancer a couple of years ago. Her father is a mariner, sailing in all parts of Europe. She turned rebellious when her father bedded different women. She abhors her father dating women and spending his cash on them. Tired of her rebellious act, the father mariner would always tell her to avoid getting pregnant. She would always tell her father, "I know what to do, ok?"
It turned out, Didi is pregnant for two months already. She is living with her boyfriend for a month. They don't have enough food for them. Her boyfriend's family lives in a shanty town. It was later found out that the cause of bleeding is lack of food and vitamins. She's in bed rest for as long as she's well.
This news from home caused the eruption of our conversation about teen pregnancy. This brought us to our mind the TV ad by Lucky Me way back 2010. (Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8NPQfL6LFs) Harlyn, with a crispy laughter said, "yes, that TV ad, I literally held my breath until she said that her friend Dianne, was pregnant!" Being unmarried with no children in the group, I can't share my feelings about having a daughter. I thought and blurted out, "so parents should advice their daughters to use contraceptives to avoid pregnancy." "Yes, that's true! Greece said.
"I have a teenage daughter too. She's in college now. She got a boyfriend. I told her, you should use contraceptives. If you can't avoid sex, use contraceptives."
With a deep sighed, Greece continued her story "I never fail to give advice to my daughter. But she seem rebellious because I and her father separated. I know she will also get pregnant. It is her choice. She knew what is right from wrong. She knew that her boyfriend fathered a child already, that he left the girl to pursue my daughter. What kind of a man is that? Also she knew that they have illegal activities in our town involving drugs. I got a hard-headed daughter. The situation about them escalate when I left the country. "
She paused for a long agonizing silence.
"I just talk to her via fb or on the phone to let her feel that I am still by her side. I always pray for her."
It made me feel so lucky that I was raised by my parents. My father always warns us: (May he rest in peace in the kingdom of Our Almighty Father) "All of you, never marry unless you are all college graduates! Girls, do not get yourself pregnant unless you are of the right age and you have a stable job! You cannot set foot into this house and into that door once you disobey my rules! Anyway you can marry even after your final step in your graduation stage."
Wow, that was quite a speech of my father each night during supper. But it worked. We were so afraid to disobey. This was before.
Parents today advice their daughters to use contraceptives to avoid teen pregnancy. Some parents should teach their daughters how to use pills and their sons to use condoms. Simply because you cannot expect your daughters to be a virgin when they marry. Teens today are more adventurous. They are more exposed to pornographic materials. It is everywhere. Even their smartphones can have access to adult movies because of the wi-fi. The temptation is always there lurking on teens' mind.
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Well, as I thought of it more often, I think this make sense. But hey, it is up to the parents how they are going to prevent teen pregnancy. To Each his own, I always say. And children vary from one another. Daughters are not the same from one another.
Some thoughts and photographs from Google images:
Didi is a 17 year old high school student, her mother died of breast cancer a couple of years ago. Her father is a mariner, sailing in all parts of Europe. She turned rebellious when her father bedded different women. She abhors her father dating women and spending his cash on them. Tired of her rebellious act, the father mariner would always tell her to avoid getting pregnant. She would always tell her father, "I know what to do, ok?"
It turned out, Didi is pregnant for two months already. She is living with her boyfriend for a month. They don't have enough food for them. Her boyfriend's family lives in a shanty town. It was later found out that the cause of bleeding is lack of food and vitamins. She's in bed rest for as long as she's well.
This news from home caused the eruption of our conversation about teen pregnancy. This brought us to our mind the TV ad by Lucky Me way back 2010. (Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8NPQfL6LFs) Harlyn, with a crispy laughter said, "yes, that TV ad, I literally held my breath until she said that her friend Dianne, was pregnant!" Being unmarried with no children in the group, I can't share my feelings about having a daughter. I thought and blurted out, "so parents should advice their daughters to use contraceptives to avoid pregnancy." "Yes, that's true! Greece said.
"I have a teenage daughter too. She's in college now. She got a boyfriend. I told her, you should use contraceptives. If you can't avoid sex, use contraceptives."
With a deep sighed, Greece continued her story "I never fail to give advice to my daughter. But she seem rebellious because I and her father separated. I know she will also get pregnant. It is her choice. She knew what is right from wrong. She knew that her boyfriend fathered a child already, that he left the girl to pursue my daughter. What kind of a man is that? Also she knew that they have illegal activities in our town involving drugs. I got a hard-headed daughter. The situation about them escalate when I left the country. "
She paused for a long agonizing silence.
"I just talk to her via fb or on the phone to let her feel that I am still by her side. I always pray for her."
It made me feel so lucky that I was raised by my parents. My father always warns us: (May he rest in peace in the kingdom of Our Almighty Father) "All of you, never marry unless you are all college graduates! Girls, do not get yourself pregnant unless you are of the right age and you have a stable job! You cannot set foot into this house and into that door once you disobey my rules! Anyway you can marry even after your final step in your graduation stage."
Wow, that was quite a speech of my father each night during supper. But it worked. We were so afraid to disobey. This was before.
Parents today advice their daughters to use contraceptives to avoid teen pregnancy. Some parents should teach their daughters how to use pills and their sons to use condoms. Simply because you cannot expect your daughters to be a virgin when they marry. Teens today are more adventurous. They are more exposed to pornographic materials. It is everywhere. Even their smartphones can have access to adult movies because of the wi-fi. The temptation is always there lurking on teens' mind.
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Well, as I thought of it more often, I think this make sense. But hey, it is up to the parents how they are going to prevent teen pregnancy. To Each his own, I always say. And children vary from one another. Daughters are not the same from one another.
Some thoughts and photographs from Google images:
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